My Leather Leggings

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As you all know, I am a fat woman. As a fat woman there are many things I am not permitted to do by the societal norms that govern polite society. I mustn’t eat anything but salad in public, I mustn’t have confidence or a healthy sense of self and by no means should I ever, ever wear leggings and most definitely not leather leggings. Well guess what everyone! I wore leather leggings today and the world continued to spin, the sun still rose and life went on.

I received many compliments which made me feel amazing. I felt great about myself today, I felt brave and confident. If you are a fat woman you know how hard it can be to feel good about yourself. We are bombarded by negativity regarding our looks from every angle.

We see airbrushed women in magazines and we think we should look like them. Please understand, that this is not real. You are real. A real human woman with imperfections, extra pounds, stretch marks, stray hairs in strange places and boobs that may be saggy.

Love your imperfections, love your body but most of all love yourself. Never be afraid to wear your leather leggings.

Stop Tearing Each Other Apart

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When I see the “Jake from State Farm” commercial it makes me curious, not about my auto insurance rates however. It makes think if the suspicious wife in that commercial was changed into a suspicious husband, would everyone still think the commercial was amusing?

What about the Fiber One commercial where the crafty wife tricks the unsuspecting husband into eating healthy? Would it be clever if the husband tricked his inept wife into eating fiber?

Consider the Yoplait commercial. Stupid hungry husband thinks wife has lots of yummy desserts in the refrigerator because she mentions them while talking on the phone to a friend. But she’s really talking about all the wonderful yogurt flavors, and how much weight she’s lost. If it was the wife being portrayed as stupid I am sure there would be outrage.

I am definitely all for the rights of women and empowerment of my gender. I do, however, have a problem with female empowerment at the expense of others. It seems the pendulum has swung to far to the left and now the victims are becoming the offenders. I see this issue in many situations, for example, body positivity. I am 100% in favor of loving the body you were given in all its unique and glorious beauty, curves, rolls, stretch marks, ect. I am not in favor of body positivity at the expense of thin women or women who are athletic, or women who enjoy working out. That is not being body positive, that is ostracizing one group in place of another. There is nothing positive about that.

The summers latest “feel good” song is “All About That Bass” written and performed by Meghan Trainor. I really like the song, it is catchy, it has a nice beat to it and the lyrics are easy to remember. I am sure that Meghan has her heart in the right place with this song, however, some of the lyrics seem counter-intuitive. For example here are the lyrics to the second verse of the song:

I’m bringing booty back
Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches Hey!
No, I’m just playing I know you think you’re fat,
But I’m here to tell you that,
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top!
Yeah, my momma she told me don’t worry about your size
She says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at night
You know I won’t be no stick thin you silly Barbie doll,
So, if that’s what’s you’re into
Then go ahead and move along!

I understand the message of the song but the lyrics are basically saying, if you are skinny you are a bitch and you must be a vapid woman that can offer society no more than eye candy. Meghan, that is far from positive. The patriarchy of our society does not allow any woman to be able to express how beautiful they are. Fat women are not allow to think of themselves as beautiful or worthy, thin women are not allowed to think of themselves as intelligent and powerful. With all the negative messages we get from the patriarchy why would we put each other down?

We, as a society need to stop tearing each other apart. We will never become empowered if we constantly shuffle the groups we shun to find which one will be the next target. If we took all the energy it takes us to snub groups of people and used it to come up with solutions to the ever growing number of problems this world faces, we would be amazed at the results.

Remember, Be Bold, Be Brave and Always Be GUTsy!

 

 

 

 

 

A Wonderful Surprise

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It is with great honor that I say that “A Girl With A Lot of Gut” has been nominated for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award”. This blog has been a dream of mine for such a long time. I have always had a passion for writing and for sharing my thoughts and my story with others. It is not an easy thing to be “different” in this world, I find this especially true for women. We are bombarded with images of how we are suppose to look in all venues. Television, magazines, internet sites, books, they all show us images of the “perfect body” Society tells us that nothing taste better than skinny feels, that thigh gaps are a symbol of beauty and that visible hip and collar bones make us worthy. I have battled with thoughts of worthlessness my entire life. I will never have a thigh gap, my collar and hip bones are very well padded and will never be visible and lastly I believe there are many things that taste far better than skinny could ever feel. It has taken almost 40 years for me to accept who and what I am. I am a fat woman. I am a mother, I am a daughter, I am sister, I am a co-worker, I am a friend, I am someone. I deserve respect, I deserve to have a voice, I deserve to have an opinion, I deserve to be able to find clothing that fits my body properly. I deserve to feel good about my body and love myself. Each and every woman of size deserves these things. It is my mission to reach as many women and share my message of body positivity.

I would like to thank thatsaucytart.wordpress.com for my nomination. Her blog is humorous, inspirational, informative and excellently written. There is not one post on her blog that did not make me smile. I love her story telling ability, it feels as though you are sitting in a café chatting with her. Being of the Jewish faith, her blog also touches my heart in a very special way. I encourage anyone that wants an informative and entertaining blog to follow to go visit thatsaucytart.wordpress.com.

THESE ARE THE INSPIRATIONAL BLOGGER RULES:

1. Thank and link the amazing person(s) who nominated you.
2. List the rules and display the award.
3. Share seven facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 15 other amazing blogs and comment on their posts to let them know they have been nominated.
5. Proudly display the award logo on your blog and follow the blogger who nominated you.

SEVEN FACTS ABOUT A GIRL WITH A LOT OF GUT

1. I am 38 years old, I live in the United States in the wee state of Delaware. I work in procurement by day but by night I work on A Girl With A Lot of Gut. My passion is my blog and my writing, I have to work a day job to pay the bills.

2. I have been an overweight person my entire life. I have dealt with depression, low self esteem, rejection and embarrassment because of my size. I tired dieting, exercising, taking pills, potions and other “miracle cures” for my obesity. Nothing worked. I continued to gain weight.

3. 7 years ago I found out I have a condition called PCOS, Polycystic ovary syndrome. My condition is hormonal and is the number one reason why I cannot lose weight. There is no cure, I will have to deal with this condition for the rest of my life.

4. I give all I have to my blog because I want other women to realize they are not alone. I do not sugar coat anything on my blog, I share my feelings with 100% honesty and truth. I feel that my followers and viewers deserve that.

5. I am a mom. I have a 20 year old daughter that is the light of my life. She is such an inspiration to me and without her love and support I would not have made it in this life.

6. I am a staunch advocate for underrepresented groups in our society. I believe everyone has the right to be heard and to be represented.

7. Lastly, I am a dreamer. I know no limits. I follow my heart. I am brave, I am bold and I am GUTsy!

And my nominations for the most inspiring blogs go to….

That Saucy Tart – She is an amazing and inspirational blogger. Follow Her!

Confessions of a Gordita – She’s a gordita latina and she is just goddamn fabulous.

Janaline’s World Journey – lovely travel blog, beautiful photography, takes you away

writing101june2014.wordpress.com  – this blog has been such a help to me while on my journey to become the best blogger I can be.

Kol B’Isha Erva – fantastic and inspiring blog on women’s issues within the Jewish community

Fifteen Minutes of Freedom – a copywriter’s struggle for creativity, I relate so much to this as a fellow copywriter

Just Keeping it Real* – she is keeping it real and she can’t decide on a damn username. I love it.

The Hip Alley – really beautiful photography

Hey Lady – She talks to herself and it is sass-tastic. A real positive body image evangelist.

Hadassah Sabo Milner: In The Pink: Sassy Orthodox Jewish blogger on women’s issues, I adore this blog

Once again a giant than you to  thatsaucytart.wordpress.com. Go visit her blog, follow her and follow all the other amazing blogs I have nominated!

Remember, always Be Bold, Be Brave and Be GUTsy!